We need to share with our preschoolers the idea of marriage and we need to discuss the concept of finding a husband or wife when our children are in grade school rather than entertaining the idea of boyfriends and girlfriends.
We need to create a family culture that does not include our children or youth engaging in frivolous boy-girl relationships.
Their purpose must be this: to become loving companions and comrades and at one with each other for time and eternity…The true marriage of Bahá’ís is this, that husband and wife should be united both physically and spiritually, that they may ever improve the spiritual life of each other, and may enjoy everlasting unity throughout all the worlds of God. They are two helpmates, two intimate friends, who should be concerned about the welfare of each other.
If they live thus, they will pass through this world with perfect contentment, bliss, and peace of heart, and become the object of divine grace and favor in the Kingdom of heaven.
We are fooling ourselves as Bahá’í parents if we aren’t aware that our youth are having sexual experiences and they are feeling a great sense of shame and guilt and even leaving the Faith due to their feeling of unworthiness after breaking this law.
Somehow as parents we are failing our children because we aren’t communicating the beauty and joy of sex within the marriage relationship.
This brief compilation gathers together extracts on this subject, and includes passages relating to the freedom of individuals to choose a spouse, the requirement of receiving the consent of parents prior to marriage, the prohibition of adultery, and the question of divorce.But if they do other than this, they will live out their lives in great bitterness, longing at every moment for death, and will be shamefaced in the heavenly realm.As for the question regarding marriage under the Law of God: first thou must choose one who is pleasing to thee, and then the matter is subject to the consent of father and mother.Perhaps we are waiting until our children turn into pre-youth or even youth before we decide to tell them "don’t have sex outside of marriage." A list of "Do-Nots" is not a great way to inspire or create acceptance of this law.Instead, we should be emphasizing the joy of sex and what a fantastic gift it is within the marriage relationship when our children are young.