Ladies, if you have no boundaries, it is like saying to a guy ‘Please, screw me over. If you don’t have any boundaries, how do you know when something feels wrong?
If you don’t have boundaries, at what point do you say ENOUGH?
You might try to talk about how you are feeling–your partner turns everything around and tries to talk about everything you’re doing wrong. Even when they hurt you, they make you feel bad for the pain it has caused them. They often don’t actually feel guilty about what they have done, only that they were caught. Other people might warn you about dating your partner–if they have a track record of abuse, most likely it is only a matter of time until they abuse you. Your friends and family wish that you would break up.
If you don’t have boundaries, isn’t it like putting up a sign and saying ‘I’m open for business to the waifs and strays of the dating world’?
If you don’t have boundaries, how do you know when to step back and take action?
It could be helpful to set a time frame for the break (for example, a week, a month, or whatever you’re both comfortable with), after which you’ll regroup and decide what your next steps will be.
Talk to each other about your expectations for the break.