(Longtime readers of my blog can probably tell you Candice Watters’ opinion on the topic, and my opinion of Candice Watters’ opinion on the topic.) Basically, the reader says she forwarded the infamous “Brother, You’re Like a Six” Boundless article to a single male friend whom she felt needed the ~advice, and he wrote her back a lengthy reply that basically reads like typical manospherian reasoning on the subjects of looks, chemistry, and attraction.
Since this reply from the horse’s mouth wasn’t good enough for Reader, who believes men are “swayed heavily by…our culture” and “secular standards about who to pursue,” she went to Candice to get the answer she wanted to hear.
Often it happens immediately – you meet someone and you feel you’re both buzzing with chemistry.
This has led us to believe that chemistry should always be instant, but this really isn’t the case.
Have you ever had this conversation with one of your friends? ) Maybe you feel like bashing your head against the wall because what it so obvious to you, and to is not apparent to your friend.
Maybe you’ve tried to gently counsel your friend that he’s just not “The One.” But it is followed up by a series of tired explanations excusing the very behavior that you and others find concerning. (You Bachelor fans recognize all the buzz words): “You just don’t understand, I’ve never felt this way before, we just have this The thing is, I do understand and you’re not the exception.
Sometimes our friends whisper that we’re “going through a phase” or “sowing our wild oats” or whatever excuse was made for us.
But deep, sometimes really, really deep, down inside we realize that this person was not the right one for us.
First dates can be stressful, and often people don’t come across as themselves – they may be nervous or awkward, not giving the best impression.
Chemistry is one of the most important elements to dating.
You may have met someone who’s perfect on paper, but if you lack the necessary spark, your relationship will go nowhere. Someone you’re dating can tick all the right boxes – right height, good looks, good job etc. At e Harmony we match you on compatibility, which is a great predictor of whether a couple will be able to carve out a long lasting, healthy relationship.
I can’t remember if I’ve discussed this article from Marry Well before, but even if I have, it’s worth a revisit.
I bookmarked the article a couple of years ago in anticipation of blogging about it, but did I ever get around to the blogging part?