And, unlike the 23-year-old who gets tanked and throws shade at your ex, she’s got class. I once went out with a young man from Queens who only dated older women because younger ladies, he found, couldn’t do a thing without checking in with 15 of their friends.In fact, your ex will likely friend her on FB (like my old bf’s ex-wife did). When you date a younger woman, he said, you also date all her friends, and it’s “a pain in the fucking ass.” You can’t just go out and do your own thing because she must receive approval from a larger governing body.Other Cougars like Rosa Hildebrandt, a 55-year-old businesswoman from Chino, Calif.who was crowned Miss Cougar Corona Del Mar in 2011, site similar-aged men as a reason for going younger.A common rule of thumb when it comes to dating is that it’s OK to be interested in someone who is half your age, plus seven years.However, the rise of the "older woman-younger man" relationship has loosened this relationship convention and instead celebrates the age-gap romance.The movement has become so significant that it’s been mentioned in several books as well as featured on several talk shows in the US.There are even dating websites like and which celebrate the pursuit of older women.
However, today, despite the stigma, the trend of younger men dating older women is on the rise.
Cougars are financially stable and mentally independent women in the 40 age range looking to date younger men.
They are women that look much younger than they are, whether through plastic surgery or staying healthy and being fit, that choose to date younger men for a variety of reasons. Lori Seeber, who was recently dubbed the Queen Cougar of Edmonton, states that most younger men (or as she calls them puppies), “take great care of themselves and go to the gym.” For her the physical attraction has to be there.
Petersburg, FL, as she feels, “full of youth so there is nothing about a older man I find attractive.”A common thought (or myth depending on how you view the topic) that pops up when it comes to younger men dating Cougars is that the relationship is strictly based on sex.
This is partially true, depending on who you ask, as Cougars are looking for men with a lot of energy.