Just because people ask a question, doesn't mean there is a substantive answer to be found...though it can be created by someone inventive, responsive to readers, and with tremendous knowledge of the subject...but some of the stories Abel and his readers share are pretty dreadful.Many of the men in question seem to have significant trouble living comfortably with their past lives and experiences.As a follow-up to our article, here are more thoughts on navigating the often tricky waters of dating someone who is beginning to date after grieving the untimely loss of their partner or spouse – from Members of our own Widow/Widowers community here on e Harmony Advice, in their own words.
Everyone mourns differently, so widows/widowers must be careful not to let other people dictate the speed of their recovery.”“Too many variables to say what is right for anyone the old year thing is probably wise as a minimum. I didn’t quite make the 1 year wait to date thing…and I made a mess, I think I will use 5 years to remarry as a minimum.“This is variable, and having been married to a widower, been widowed and later marrying another widower as well as encountering several men on the widow/widower board, I have noticed that men seem to be ready earlier than women.This does not mean that these opportunities can't be used to share other aspects of their lives and when men are pressed they will talk about what other information and ideas were exchanged at these meetings.I see some of these differences coming from the way men are socialized - that is how they see their role in raising the children and in running the household. It was not so long ago that it was considered unmanly for men to cry in public. They would often hide their grief, in their work or in other activities.' I promised I'd see what I could do, hardly imagining fate might intervene in the form of the Daily Mail.Caelen regularly tells me he's worried about who'll look after me if I'm still alone when he leaves home. The truth is, he wants to be part of a family and have a dad around.