Once I started learning about attraction, I came to the sad conclusion that I could have taken advantage of being able to practice the skills of meeting and attracting women. In fact, that was how I thought meeting girls was supposed to be like: introductions. Instead, I complained about not being able to meet girls. By my senior year, I got fed up with doing this and started going to a few new spots. If I had applied that same mentality during college, I would have been more successful with the girls there and felt way better in the morning. But the only ones I talked to, were the ones that I was introduced to. I couldn’t get over the fear of being able to approach a woman and start a conversation out of thin air. However, something I do regret is using it as a crutch for my social life. The college that I went to was divided into two sections: greek life and G. After I graduated, I slowed down my drinking to just one per night and I ended up meeting more girls, getting more numbers and going on more dates. Because I was focused on the interactions with girls, rather then the amount of drinks I gulped down.Questions like, "What's the biblical model for dating? " and, "Do you believe there is one person out there for me? Yet when it comes to directing them to resources about relationships, often I'm uncomfortable recommending many of the Christian resources available.While no doubt the purveyors of these resources mean well, I find that many of the resources lack significant social and theological acuity.I work with Christian college students who are in the throes of dating or of wanting to be dating.Nearly every week during the school year, I am asked questions (mostly by ladies) about the ins-and-outs of the dating process.But when women are in oversupply—as they are today at most U. colleges and universities—men play the field and women are more likely to be treated as sex objects.In 2013, the gender ratio among that year’s college graduates was , women to men. With girls continuing to outpace boys in school and young women continuing to attend college in ever-greater numbers, the U. Department of Education now expects the ratio to approach three women for every two men by 2023.
Before now, she got advice about boys—mostly warnings.Devote the years you’re enrolled in college first to your education and pursuit of a profession.Of course, that’s second to keeping alive your relationships with God, your family and friends.Let me suggest that college-bound high schoolers add one more item to their collegiate checklist: the gender ratio.If applicants and their parents want to know whether the dating scene at a particular college is geared more towards wild hookups or traditional relationships, the best barometer will always be the ratio of women to men on campus.