Just because they receive the most responses online does not mean those responses are pleasant or flattering. From the racist to the downright lewd, it’s easy for an Asian woman looking for a serious relationship to get discouraged and want to delete their profile forever.
The role of subservient woman seems to be tied exclusively to Asians, and their “exotic” status tends to turn them into hyper-sexualized beings among other ethnicities.
This person was of a previous generation (or several previous generations), was living in the American south at the time, and had “what was best” for my husband and me at heart. Upon learning of our engagement, she clicked her tongue and a look like she’d just been told the ice cream she was eating was made out babies, crossed her face. And a couple times I was accused of “marrying a white guy to rebel against my Japanese parents”.
My friends were so surprised that at 24 years old I had never had a real Valentine’s Day, but I am pretty sure I am not alone (please LEAVE COMMENTS below if this year was also your first V-Day! Last Valentine’s Day, my friend told me not to be sad that I didn’t have anyone to celebrate with – when the time is right, it will exceed all your expectations. So let’s go back to talking about the big V-Day date, and chatting about some points that I think are interesting to share.
Having “the talk” Before V-Day this year, my boyfriend and I had been dating for a couple of months, and we were right at the point of “defining the relationship.” We had a big, formal talk over dinner one night to discuss where we were in this relationship and where it should be going, and this talk basically determined if we would celebrate Valentine’s Day together.
But the key is that everything is talkable, and open communication is the key to navigating the relationship scene in a country that we are not originally from.
often take for granted how bad Asian males have it in the dating market in the West, particularly in North America.