In terms of the people you’ve dated in the past, how attractive would you say they are?
As you walk toward your plush red corner booth in the back, you notice that several diners take note of your gorgeous date and follow your date with their eyes all the way to the booth.
A friend forwarded me an article about looks on the dating site Ok Okay, maybe it didn’t blow my mind, but it did validate everything that I’ve ever said about online dating.
I’m going to do my best to summarize– and explain what you can learn from it. 1) Men have a very fair assessment of women’s overall attractiveness.
You may ask out people who are more attractive to you, but the people most likely to date you are also around a 7.
"The fancy name for all this is assortative mating," Lewandowski said.
After coaching women for many years, I already suspected this, but this was a stark realization when you see just how few men you even find to be average looking. Ok Cupid reports that the most attractive women still receive 5X more email than average women and 28X more email than unattractive women.
Literally 2/3 of male messages go to the best looking 1/3 of women.
I also noticed their husbands were all shorter than they were; I wondered if it was because of the heels.
As we sat sipping coconut broth mixed with rice, I looked up and noticed three couples enter the restaurant, waiting for the hostess to return from the kitchen to seat them.
I'm a naturally observant person, and I tend to stare at people without really caring if it makes them uncomfortable.
You may have seen a recent episode of “Girls” on HBO, or perhaps have witnessed an example in your own life or social circle, where one member of a couple is far more attractive than the other. Next, ask yourself how you would feel about being with someone who is a few notches above you in the appearance department.
Don’t feel bad about noticing such discrepancies because you’re not alone. Let’s do a visualization exercise in which I’m setting you up with someone who is extremely attractive.