I still don’t equate it to whether I am happy or not (and never will), although I acknowledge money certainly makes things easier.I never made a lot of money in my career — newspaper journalism — but that didn’t stop men from dating me, or two men from marrying me.I am fortunate to have a wonderful longtime partner (who, as an educator, knows all about small salaries), but I sometimes wonder what would happen if I lost my job and was looking for love — would I be marriage material (assuming I even wanted to marry again, that is, which I don’t), or even dateable? ); by virtue of my gender alone, yes — I would probably be viable relationship material.But if I were an unemployed man — regardless of age — would the same rules apply?I could find no study analyzing similar data pertaining to non-heterosexual couples, but I doubt Maria's case is an anomaly.
We are compatible on many levels, but there is one thing that continues to turn me off (from ten years ago to now) and that is his lack of ambition to be successful professionally.
Probably not (although I imagine a certain amount of women would eagerly entangle themselves if he was hot; yes, we gals can be incredibly shallow, too).
Unemployed, under-employed and low-income men are just not good dating or marriage material in the eyes of many women.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, Jason Weberman, CPCC, a dating and relationship expert with North Star Coaching, indicates a study conducted by Match.com, and his own experience, to point out women statistically value employment and financial security in a mate much more than the other way around.
Women, he notes, must compensate with "physical appearance and personality." Amber Soletti, co-founder of the NYC based dating service, On Speed Dating.com, who runs "laid off speed dating" events, confirms this gender-based phenomenon, noting twice as many men as women sign up for her events.