But there are also a few of us sad souls who have never felt the warm embrace of love (7% said they’d never been in love, while 3% said they’d never a partner that they’re in love), and others who like to take things to slow (6% said the earliest they’d ever said ‘I love you’ was a year in).
At this point, you may be asking what the right answer is. Withholding an ‘I love you’ for years could end up pushing your partner away, while spilling it within a week could send them running.
Say it when you’re sure you feel it, when you’re saying it because you need them to know, not because you’re trying to keep them around or win them over, and when you’re sure they’ll be comfortable hearing it. Don’t rush it, but don’t feel like you need to delay the announcement for years.
Oh, and we would recommend saying it for the first time in person – not over text or written on a cake.
Once you get some perspective, what's impossible to face is often easy to see. But I now realise that actions do speak louder than words.One friend (who wishes to remain anonymous lest her non-boyfriend reads this) explains: “I’ve been seeing this guy for four months now – we’re dating and see each other a couple of times a week.However, if anyone refers to me as his girlfriend in front of him, the colour drains from his face.Invariably if the person I’m speaking to has been single at any point in the last decade, then yes, they know exactly what I mean, because if there’s one scenario that’s become endemic amongst myself and my peers, it’s our inability to define a relationship after the first five or six dates. Is it too soon to refer to someone as your boyfriend? If you’ve been on 12 dates with someone, you really don’t still want to be seeing other people do you?But if you’re not seeing anyone else, and you’re seeing a lot of each other what on earth is it if it’s not a relationship?