That is: All women want children—as one gynecologist told me, "That's what we're here for."But I don't want to.
I stayed with my first serious boyfriend for seven years.
So here is my advice about dating people with kids.
However, I was In addition to checking the "no kids" box on dating sites, I would clearly bring up my childfree decision sometime in the first few dates. Condoms have kept me baby-free my entire sexually active life. When used perfectly, as I have always done, they are very effective against pregnancy and STIs.
“He’s a director,” I told my friend L., absently fiddling with the lighter in my hand. We went to Club 33 at Disneyland and he treated me to couples massages and pool time at the Four Seasons spa. I was starting to wonder what our relationship would look like when it became a story for four, instead of two.
He gave me tennis lessons and I dragged him to yoga class. But my favorite thing was always cuddling on the couch and talking.
I met wonderful, interesting men, who showed me parts of New York I hadn't known—all very rom-commy and joyful. However I put my disinterest in children, these men would eventually tell me how much wanted babies (more than one told me how beautiful I would look pregnant). So I took it a step further and explained how terrified I was, physically and mentally, to be pregnant, to care for needy small humans.
But just like a formulaic movie plot, they all wanted kids. Age had something do with it: I was in my early 30s. And I would very nicely tell them they were dating the wrong woman, extricate myself, and move on. Two different, otherwise wonderful, handsome, and brilliant men said they "understood" after I opened up about my fears.