If I go out with someone my own age, I am going to be light-years behind in experience. When you say that you are a nice guy, I wonder if what you mean is that you are a passive guy. I note that you’ve been on dates but have bailed out of the process after the second date, perhaps because you “fear intimacy” as it were (the second date being the beginning of the period when the formation of a relationship becomes a possibility).
You say you can’t build up enough energy to date, but the message that is really communicated is that you feel too much like a “dork” to date.You’re worried that the women you would date would think you are a loser. It's something that can cause significant stress and discomfort, and in extreme cases possibly even cause panic attacks and feelings of low self-worth as a result of social situations.Most of my life is filled with success, except for one HUGE gap.I have never had a girlfriend, or a relationship that has gone beyond two dates (usually my decision or something weird happens). I have never kissed a woman, or really put myself in a situation where I could kiss someone.