I wrote a post in 2014 about how I’d only ever been on one Tinder date.I remember writing that post and feeling really insecure about hitting the “publish” button.I started getting all these emails from my readers detailing their Tinder date recaps from start to finish.I soon realized that people want to talk about online dating and whether or not it works because people want to talk about meeting someone in general.
The biases and snap judgments that permeate our society are amplified through technology, and the swipe-to-reject models of popular dating sites can be utterly frustrating for people of color, because judgments based on photos are highly susceptible to the stereotypes and implicit biases that come into play when viewing photos of strangers. While these sites can seem to offer safe spaces for people looking to exclusively date people with shared cultural identities, the need for separate, race-siloed spaces to feel safe strikes me as outdated. Okay, it’s time to have an open and frank discussion about the battle of the sexes and the dating game.It’s far too complex, scary and difficult for mere mortals – so let’s bridge the gap by asking both men and women what doesn’t work when it comes to online dating Dating has gone digital. There is a very specific, strategic, seven-word question that the world seems to have agreed is the politically correct way to approach the topic.It is always said in the most casual tone anyone can muster.