How long do you think a man is going to hold out without having sex? Your decision to remain celibate is based on your own personal, selfish desire to meet the man of your dreams and avoid getting hurt.
You want the rewards of a relationship without the collateral damage, and you're using your body instead of your brain as a bargaining tool.
Speak in his language: let him know you are serious by following through with action through the entire dating phase. Keep things old school Texting replaces calling when people want to get straight to the point, that’s why grown boys looove texting, as they can get sex in a few interactions.
When sex is taken off the table, the whole process of ‘getting to know each other’ becomes more sincere, as you are naturally forced to engage in conversation.
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I still do hope one day to marry, but if that doesn't happen, then I will remain abstinant my entire life.
I do understand that most people are after sex, and very few wait for marriage these days, and that's a shame.
And you know calling takes time–time is an investment–which leads to going on a date to do something that both of you have agreed you enjoy while speaking on the phone. Be aware of time This isn’t just about him calling before 10pm or whatever, it’s also about you being sensitive of speaking too late and what type of thoughts might come into his mind while hearing your voice late at night.
There is a saying, “You can’t love someone until you love yourself.” I really believe this to the core, since I am still young (22) I attract young acting men regardless of the age.
Lately I have been attracting all kinds of black men on the spectrum. When I tell them I want to be friends and network and that I’m not on that with them.
And that I’m trying to work on me; they have the same reaction, they either ignore it and keep trying or make a run for it.
I guess what I am trying to ask is that why with men is abstinence frowned upon or considered “Old Fashioned.” Why can’t there be a medium why does it have to be are you F**king or Not? First off, thank you for the compliments on the site. Before I begin, I’d like to commend your choice to be abstinent while you work on yourself, especially at such a young age.