When you both like each other, you’ve 'aligned.' Congrats!
The most effective way to find balance is to combine fees and other barriers to entry.My personal policy is: Text briefly, meet briefly, go from there. I’ve seen: “no stay-at-home moms,” “no drama,” “no kids,” “no hairdressers” and “no tattoos.” Framing desires in the negative makes my toes curl. On dates, I’ve almost fallen off my bar stool that the person I was just laughing with is a Trump apologist.Because I do not have the time for long exchanges and rambling first dates. So I won’t put “no Trump supporters” because I’m not trying to attract negative people by being negative. As the first-date conversation meanders toward current events, I cannot and do not hide my disdain for Trump. ” And I will invariably get an answer that is not a straight answer, more like corporate doublespeak.A friend suggested that I ask prospective dates if they’re a Trump supporter before agreeing to meet. Somehow texting “Hi, my name is Shannon, do you believe Donald Trump is a misogynist? Other online daters tell me it’s best to state your politics in your profile: “No Trump supporters.” I thought about this.” doesn’t seem like the best way to start a conversation. But one of my biggest turnoffs (no matter what a guy looks like) is seeing a list of deal breakers.