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There are hardly enough books depicting foreign women with Chinese boyfriends or husbands. When you have a Chinese husband or boyfriend, sometimes you feel as if you belong to a lonely club. One of my dearest e-mail friends, a woman from Germany, once found me on the net because she had a — then — Chinese boyfriend and yearned to find someone to share her experience with.
Off the top of my head, I can think of Rachel De Woskin’s Foreign Babes in Beijing: Behind the Scenes of a New China and Repeat After Me: A Novel, Nicole Mones’ Lost in Translation, and Pearl S. So I began to wonder — why are there so few Chinese guys and foreign girls becoming couples?
But that's only because I have a loose sense of money and materialism. So when I sacrifice time for someone, it means I deeply care about Again, fair statement.
There are a couple damning stereotypical perceptions about us. Calculating and calculative - such are useful skills to improve one's business acumen, but less desirable when it comes to courtship. There's no short of excuse or occasion to buy gifts - birthday, Valentine's Day, anniversary, make-up-after-fight, break up, I- thought-of-you-when-I-was-passing-the-florist. It's somewhat true that Chinese men are cheap, in the sense that they are more prudent and restrained in gift-buying. I consider myself rather generous with gifts and treats.
And as we all know, actions speak louder than words. There are simple logical explanations why Asian male/White female couples are generally rare, incompatible and fundamentally mismatched.
(which all statistics on interracial relationships confirm) Allow me to elaborate.
Of course, some of it has its roots in the usual stereotypes — stereotypes in the Western World.
According to Sheridan Prasso’s book, The Asian Mystique: Dragon Ladies, Geisha Girls, & Our Fantasies of the Exotic Orient, Asian men in general have long been losers in the world of mainstream American media: If there are some admirable aspects of the portrayals of Asian women in Hollywood and on TV, it’s hard to say the same of the portrayals of Asian men.