My previous breakups with other women had usually been very bad too.This time, i was practicing a form of Buddhism that is focused on optimizing lives by using ones innate abilities.
I could be one of the other six hundred million who don't care. I threw the switch the other way, and became one of those who don't care.
You feel rejected, and denied, and are locked into being regarded as somehow inadequate, by yourself, and others. In the long run, you can carry this pain, even if you get divorced, or you can walk away from a bad situation, and cut your losses.
After my first wife left, and filed for divorce, I was emotionally devastated.
A more accurate term for 'separated' in most of these cases would really be 'separating,' since few of these people are actually through their divorces or have completely ended their previous relationships.
One of the most common temptations people fall for when a relationship is ending is the desire to find a new love - Often these people have been unhappy and missing love, companionship and sex for a longtime, and so there's a real pent-up, unmet need for love.